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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

08.06.2025 01:02

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By taking turns talking.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

How many of you have had your parental rights taken away because of lies and no truth whatsoever, and did you prove the lies that were told about you to be false either through drug testing or another way, but still had your rights taken?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

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By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.